How to Start Attracting People to You

[Dali Burgado]

The basic principle behind the Law of Attraction is that "Like attracts like."

As a leader in the Network Marketing industry, if you are motivated, success-driven, outgoing and fun - you will attract people who are also motivated, success-driven, outgoing and fun!

You will always attract who you are and below. The reason this is so is people are always looking for others to learn from. We look for those leaders who are where we want to be later down the road, and we seek their knowledge to get us there.

Before you can think of attracting others you must be an "attractive person" mentally and spiritually.

Now this is not to say anyone can be perfect. We all must work on ourselves before we can attract the right partner - whether that be in a romantic relationship or business relationship.

So start by developing YOU. Once you become that confident, shining, radiant leader, you will attract the same.

Start writing a list of attributes that your perfect customers and business partners would possess, then ask yourself "what should I work on to make me a more attractive leader to them?"

What action steps must I take to be more "attractive"? Begin growing one step at a time.

It all begins with YOU. Happy growing!

Dali Burgado

[Rohan]

I remember going up on stage in front of a crowd of 300 people, some seminar about this company.

Like always I continue to say motivated, happy, ready to help those who have any questions and yes ready to learn from others too.

As it happened, after my speech the darn crowd just kept staring at my face, did not even clap, had to be reminded to clap/applaud.

I could feel such dirty, negative jealousy ridden vibes from them, and it really took me by surprise and a tinge of sadness.

After me, this other guy, looked totally frustrated, wasn't even very good in his daily hygiene I guess, walks up on stage, mutters something and the whole crowd gets up to applaud him.

Point I'm trying to drive home here is, its not always that motivated happy people have followers, it all depends on where you are, circumstances etc.

I spoke in English, possibly thats the mistake I made, should have spoken in Hindi, should have been dressed a little shabbily etc, they tend to "take to" underdogs here rather than the flamboyant, happy, motivated guy.

So its all depends on different conditions, circumstances etc.

[Andrea Goodsaid]

Don't you think that people respond best to whoever it is they can relate to?

That's about getting in front of the right people for the right reasons, no?

Of course I have no clue since I wasn't there.... who was in the audience?

And being flamboyant and happy isn't the only thing that makes people attractive (it's not especially attractive to me, for instance) -- I think it's being able to connect with people wherever they're at that makes all the difference.

Andrea

[Rohan]

Definitely ,whoever they can relate to! and they related well to the underdog.

Just emphasizes my point again that all happy and motivated etc etc is just in the books, different circumstances warrant different actions with possibly different results too.

Bending the "laws" here are we ?

[Jackie Lee]

To add a logistical point to this conversation ~

I completely agree with you Dali that you have to do the inside work, but when you start attracting people on purpose you have to share WHO YOU ARE with the world.

I find I started attracting people to ME when I started talking about me, sharing me, the things I loved and was passionate about. This could be in forums, in my blog, and even on my profile pages.

I find when I don't even mention what I'm doing, but talk about who I am and what I love it can be easy to attract people to me. Then at some point they almost always want to know what else I'm doing.

Sometimes it's a fit for them, and sometimes it's not. Sometimes I end up not finding business partners but the best friends in the world ~ and sometimes, just sometimes, those new friends know my perfect business partner match :)

So my step would be stop talking about your business, and start talking about yourself and the things you love.

Jackie

[Rohan]

Again, @ what Jackie has said, I wasn't talking about my business at all! they had come for that seminar very well knowing voluntarily what the company is into, they had a purpose to be there.

Me being the sole leader of sorts from that country, was asked to come up on stage and relate my experience etc.

Inspite of that, I spoke more about myself, my family etc. Perhaps you should trying giving a speech here in India :) lets see how it goes, how those "laws" go and how talking about oneself goes :))!

Try selling an opportunity to someone here :) first question they are going to ask you is "how much will you earn if I join" so its tough when that mindset is around.

Sometimes big fancy laws and marketing talks about being the next best caring person in the world just fall flat on the floor!

[Andrea Goodsaid]

I guess that's one of the things I appreciate about the Internet the best -- to a degree, cultural norms and expectations can be more easily over come ... we can BE ourselves (once we trust that we are unfailingly interesting to those we attract) and work towards putting ourselves in places that we can cross paths with others "just like us".

Now, a part of the puzzle here is that inside work that Jackie and Dali are talking about -- if you don't like the people who you're attracting, you gotta change you.

You either were in front of the wrong audience or if these were people you wanted to attract, you were not BEing attractive (not speaking to them in a way they could relate to who you are and where you came from) ... or perhaps they all had bouts of indigestion at exactly the same moment -- lol.

It would have to be one of those, yes?

Something else occurs to me ... Attraction Marketing to me is a more personal activity than 'speaking to a crowd'. That's not to say that your time and energy can't be leveraged across a wide audience, because it can, but it has to be a one-on-one connection that's made -- they have to feel like they know like and trust YOU.

Which means putting yourself 'out there' in authentic ways, in places (just like this :) that people who are looking might find you. And putting 'funnels' in place that allow them to opt-in to YOU and get to know you at their own pace.

And ideally, these 'funnels' are things that they can also see themselves doing or being a part of.

That's what's workin' for me anyway.

hth,
Andrea

[Rohan]

Yup, internet marketing is way beyond cultural boundaries and there is a lesser scope for the "j" kind.

No its not about bouts of indigestion at all, its just about open mouthed gaping illiterates who suddenly come across something they don't understand, appreciate or just cant accept! (my opinion)

Who suddenly find themselves concentrating less on what the person talks, on what the company is but more on frivolous thoughts with regards to the persons attire, accent bla bla.

Cheap stakes of the first order, perhaps I'll get lucky to comes across a better appreciative audience .

[Brendan Merrick]

Excellent article. fully agree and very well written.

[Brendan Merrick]

Setting an example to others is vital - especially those that are expected to look up to you.

There is an existing scene and an Ideal Scene. Then when the Ideal scene is reached, it becomes another existing scene. Your attitude towards yourself has a lot to do with ones eventual success.

Certainty will breed certainty. Doubt will breed doubt.